Welcome to the board BlackPearl! Your thoughts are well put. Hope to get to know you some more. Enjoy your stay!
Meagan
BlackSwan of Memphis
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OK, I't My Turn As The Newbie
by BlackPearl ini'm not sure where to start, probably in two major areas.
mechanics thing, that can't work, and what i see as the lack of true love in the brotherhood.
i've been in "the truth" or lack thereof, for about 30 years, give or take a little.
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Anyone else in PUTERNUT's shoes? Despairing? COME TO US!
by AlmostAtheist inhey guys,.
listen, we were all "brothers" and "sisters" at one time and it didn't really mean shit.
i'd've turned my back on the lot o' ya when i was a jw and i found out you were apostates.. but now we're all truly brothers and sisters.
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Thought about it.
A few years back, I think it was a little bit postpartum and then mega stress of having to live up to expectations from so many different ends.
Got to a point where I decided to see a therapist.
I called my mom for support and she talked me out of it.
I was in tears. I went through it again about a year and a half ago and I think what got me through was knowing my kids needed me.
Now, I think that even though I get incredibly lonely, not feeling like I have to work so hard to live up to these expectations to keep others happy has been a huge burden lifted off my shoulder.
I worry about one of my sisters. She has expressed suicidal thoughts to me at times. The good thing is she finally got to a point where she went to the therapist and is on meds. The problem is, med insurance for her and her family isn't always stable due to their circumstances.
When I read about Ary I swore to my husband, that if she ever took her life, I would take every last bit of anger that I had and pour it on the WTS because the expectations and the constant threat of disapproval/shunning is running people ragged. They are seriously, truly modern day Pharisees.
meagan
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What did you change in your "look" to show your rebellion?
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i grew a goatee and thats my sign to them, that i'm rebellious... .
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so far I've gotten my belly pierced, started smoking some pot, started cursing more because it seems to make me feel better in certain situations, learned how to say NO to people and mean it. I don't have the people pleasing disease anymore. Next is my nost piercing and then some tattoos. I'd like to go back to school this spring also. OOOOHHHHHH!! higher education! I'm bad to the bone huh?!
Woe! Totally not what I expected you to say... I mean... Wow, higher education! You should be disfellowshipped. Naughty, naughty. Meagan
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What did you change in your "look" to show your rebellion?
by JH in.
i grew a goatee and thats my sign to them, that i'm rebellious... .
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I changed into a Frog. that fooled them! The trouble is I don't sing so well nowadays.
Lol Bleaching hair (hey it's a process!!) Then adding nice little ruby highlights Piercing nose. Getting a second tattoo (maybe a third) Then I thought about showing off my new look at the next district assembly... Meagan
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Sad news from Maui
by Makena1 inwe went to our favorite beach, met up with some of our local friends.
we don't have much in the way of details - but heard some devasting news that ari (well known to seattle area exjw's and i am sure by many on the board) killed himself sometime over last weekend.
he was so excited about moving to maui, and starting a new life here.
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didn't know him, read his posts, very, very sad day.
I have known wonderful people who took this route.
Not right. Good people are being put through hell and back because of this stupid effing organization.
They should be held accountable.
meagan
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If you tell people the truth,is it enlightening them or inciting a rebelion
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Seems to me it could go either way.
Somtimes the rebellion comes first and then the enlightenment.
Perhaps rebellion is a stage of enlightenment.
meagan
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How many family members or close friends did you lose to the Watchtower?
by JH inbecause of their shunning policy how many family members or good friends did the watchtower take away from you?.
in my case, i'd say 4 good friends were lost because of the watchtower shunning policy.
luckily, i had no family members there
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I hope this doesn't sound dumb, and I don't mean to trivialize any losses...
But whether it's one loss or 24 or 30 +....
From one and up...
No body has the right to hold our families/friends ransom like this.
meagan
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How many family members or close friends did you lose to the Watchtower?
by JH inbecause of their shunning policy how many family members or good friends did the watchtower take away from you?.
in my case, i'd say 4 good friends were lost because of the watchtower shunning policy.
luckily, i had no family members there
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34 family members, that includes 2 new babies that were just born that I've never seen
+ 12 close friends
countless close family friends
I was just thinking about this today, and yesterday, and the day before...
meagan
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Circumcision
by Clam ina teacher noticed that a little boy at the back of the class .
was squirming around, scratching his crotch and not paying .
attention.
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hahaha, that was funny!
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should I? and re:door to door
by carla init has come to my attention that husband has visited a family members home in jw capacity along with another jw.
i am pretty po'd about it and family member made me promise not to tell him i know.
(great) i have drafted a letter to friends and family about jw's and mind control and so on (yes, all nicey nice, love the person, etc..) my question is should i even send it?
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a) If this family member is in the territory of his congregation, then it's possible that it was a chance meeting so to speak. If the family member is not in the territory, then he's targeting them.
b) If he's targeting them, he's going behind your back to evangelize to your family. Since I don't know your family, my concern would be, that maybe one of them could be interested in what he would have to say.
I'm with Jeannie. I don't think a basic letter could hurt. If he knew about it, it could spark problems. Then again, if you are fairly certain that this was an issue of him trying to get to your family behind your back, that needs to be taken into consideration as well.
good luck Carla
meagan